A confession and a challenge to my fellow Christians…

I have a confession to make. I haven’t written anything here in quite a while, but not because of a lack of ideas. It’s because I’ve been struggling with some of the same junk I’ve struggled with my entire life. Like most aspies, I’m well aware that I’m different from most other people. Even if I were unable to observe for myself that there are differences, people often point them out to me. I have often thought that I simply do not fit anywhere, and because I do not fit, there is no place for me. Because there is no place for me, I should not exist. I have been thinking up ways to end my existence since before I was a teenager.

I have been wrong.

In 1 Corinthians 12:12-20, the Bible tells me:

12 For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body— Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit. 14 For the body does not consist of one member but of many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell?18 But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.

It is true that I do not function like most of the people around me, but neither does the nose function like any other body part. The conclusion that I do not fit does not follow from the premise that I function differently. I confess that I was wrong to walk away from the body as a young man, but I realized that and I am back. However, I know that I’m not the only one that left because of feeling different.  Many have even been asked to change or leave. Continuing in 1 Corinthians 12, we read:

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.”22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, 24 which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, 25 that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26 If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. 27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

My challenge to my fellow Christians is this: Reach out and reconnect with our missing parts. Help them find that place where they honor God by functioning as they were made. Recognize that, if they don’t seem to fit, you may be the part needing adjustment. I invite you to learn more at http://www.keyministry.org/.



Filed under Church, Disability, Encouragement

9 responses to “A confession and a challenge to my fellow Christians…

  1. Carlyle…you are a very important part of the Body, and a blessing to us! THANK YOU for all you are doing to build the Church so that everyone is included.

  2. Kristen

    I just want to say that Carlyle realizing he is here for a reason and that God has a purpose for his life is an answer to a prayer of mine. I’ve seen it all along and known he is amazing and has a heart to change lives, but for him to see it, is a miracle.

  3. Kara

    Carlyle, I love your comments today! You are right on! We see some of the same things with Aspen all of the time.

  4. magerfive

    Thank You!!! At some time in all of our lives I think we feel like an ear or a hand that was no good. This reminds us that we are All important and it takes all of us to make the world go round!! I could not ever imagine my world with out you and Kristen in it!!!! HUGS!!

  5. Carlyle, I’m very happy about this post. Even us NTs get hurt by the church. I myself had a “walk away from the body” experience. But what makes me happiest is that you have determined you are a part. Remember, you are a warrior made in God’s image.

  6. Paul Castelin

    Carlyle, what a remarkable connection that you’ve made! I’m happy for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is your recognition that you DO belong. Non-believers cannot be held to account for what they think or say, but Christians can and should be. Even though as new Christians we drank milk, now we should be on solid food! Stupid things like race, national origin, ethnicity, and gender should never divide us; the only two categories that matter are: you know and love Jesus or you need to know why you should.
    Thanks so much for your posting, Carlyle.

  7. drgrcevich

    Hey Carlyle,

    Great post. Must have missed this the first time when we were on vacation.

    Did you ever stop to think that maybe you were created in the way you were “for such a time as this,” to quote from Esther 4:14? Maybe God has given you a very large (and vitally important) role in the Body? One in which you can help point many, many people with Asperger’s to Jesus and point the church to the many with Asperger’s who need to know Jesus?

  8. Tremendous my friend. Simply Tremendous. We are better for knowing you.

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